In the last week or so, I was blessed by similar messages coming from different places:
God loves me just the way I am – and will use what I have to give. He doesn’t ask for me to be something I’m not.
I met a friend for coffee, and we talked about how we didn’t feel we were really good at anything in particular (yes, two Ph.D.’s saying that!). I was encouraged that I wasn’t the only one.
The same week, Chad was reading Just the Way You Are by Max Lucado to our toddler. The story describes five children who have been adopted by the king. In preparing for his coming, one is working on intricate wood working as a gift. A second child labors over a painting fit for a king. A third child is busy practicing beautiful music that she can offer. A fourth studies hard, using his intellect, hoping to impress the king with his wisdom.
The fifth child, the youngest, doesn’t share any of these given talents with her siblings. “All she had to offer was her heart, for her heart was good.” She invests in people. She knows them by name. She cares about them. But because she had no gift, she was afraid she would disappoint the king. But when the king comes, she is the only one who has time for him. The king points out her gift to her – that she gave her heart, “your kindness, your time, your love.”
(Just in case you wonder about our life being real, with one sentence remaining in the story, Clara threw up on me.)
The last place was through the Bible study I’m doing, Beth Moore’s Beloved Disciple. On that particular day, one of the highlighted passages was Acts 3, where Peter and John heal a crippled beggar. What stood out to me was, “Peter and John gave what they had. I love the words ‘Silver or gold I do not have, but what I have I give you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, walk’ (v. 6). God never asks us to give what we don’t have.”
In this transition to staying at home, I feel a little intimidated. I am not skilled in housekeeping, as I’ve mentioned. I don’t have a talent for decorating our home. I don’t sew. I am not good at stain removal or planning fun crafts or organizing play dates. I can get caught up in thinking about all the cool things other stay-at-home moms do – that I feel totally incompetent.
What I need to remember is:
- God will use what He’s given me. My special handwriting and enjoyment for writing letters and notes to people. My interest in cooking and baking out of love for family and guests. Yes, even my crazy interest in applied statistics and problem solving can somehow be used for His glory. I don’t have to look like every other stay-at-home mom to be a good stay-at-home mom. (Would there ever be two such women exactly alike? See how silly my thoughts can be?)
- Though I may not be gifted in the domestic arts (If only they were domestic sciences!), my little girl has my heart, and that’s what matters right now. My time playing with her on the floor is worth more to her than a clean kitchen or a hand-sewn dress right now.
- I shouldn’t worry about what I’m not. Now, I fully expect that the Lord will be refining and growing me in some of these areas (and I hope with research and practice to develop some skills), but God made me “fearfully and wonderfully,” and despite the fact that I don’t seem to fit in well with my peers as an engineer, as a homemaker, or as a teacher, He has some amazing plan for this unique combination of skills and interests. I need to trust Him with that and follow where He leads.
Are you sometimes intimidated by the ideal picture of who you think you ought to be? Let’s look to Jesus and ask to see ourselves through His eyes.
~Dana